Don’t Short Circuit Your Child’s Development

Guest: Kailee Lockette, North Dallas Christian Counseling

 

(214) 577-8334

1404 Gables Court

Suite 203

Plano, TX 75075

info@NDCcounseling.com

 

Kailee holds the following certificates from the American School Counselor Association:

• Mental Health Specialist Training
• Students with Special Needs Training
• Trauma and Crisis Management Specialist Training

And Kailee is a member of:

• TCA - Texas Counselors Association
• ABC - Association of Biblical Counselors

 

Kailee likes to think through our life as a tree and we often examine the fruit of our lives, but she is also interested in the external factors that affect your life and the quality of the soil in which you’re living.

 

What are your desires that have turned into demands? Positive things that God wants to give you can become something negative in your life.

 

“Mistakes” in parenting can be opportunities to show your children your need for God’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness. This can be used as a connection instead of a condemnation.

 

Saint, sufferer, sinner - we are at various times all of these.

 

Kailee often talks about our limits and our capacities. And while God is unlimited, we are NOT…a lot of stress and anxiety is because people are operating outside of their capacity! This may be why we see adults who are “stuck” in the developmental stages because of the trauma that people experience and they haven’t been able to “work through” tremendously difficult aspects of their lives.

 

Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce by Elizabeth Marquardt

 

Our culture isn’t comfortable with suffering and the “long hard road” of healing, which is why so many people short circuit the journey to the help that God offers as one goes through the painful process of true healing, forgiveness, and redemption.

 

Even parenting today is short circuiting the training and development of our children - the hard road of learning patience, self-control, perseverance, etc…today so many parents are medicating their children with prescriptions or technology that bring about a temporary sense of calm and tranquility, but don’t help train a child to learn how to self-regulate their emotions.

 

Attachment theory - according to Kailee, the way that your parents attached to you trained and modeled a way for you to understand yourself and the world around you. Scripture tells us that our primary job as parents is to “attach” our children to God Himself, which is made possible by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ who lived the life we couldn’t and died the death we deserved, to give us the opportunity to be reconciled to God.

Special shout out to Jared Wood for allowing us to use his music - check him out at JaredWoodMusic!